Show domestic abuse the red card

show a red card to domestic abuse

For lots of us, national football tournaments are a time for positivity, community and national pride, but according to previous years, domestic abuse reports rise by 38% when England lose a game.

This year, we're asking you to show a red card to domestic abuse. If you'd like to help spread awareness of this within out district, post a 'pub selfie' showing your red card and tag #KeepItSweet.

Together we can make a change to domestic abuse rates within Wakefield.

If you're a victim of domestic abuse, find help and support here

Support for perpetrators - You can change


Domestic abuse isn't always about violence. Some behaviours can result in your partner feeling trapped, worthless or scared. Recognising your behaviour is one of the first hurdles to overcome. It's important to face up to how your behaviour is affecting your family. If you identify this then you've achieved the biggest challenge in this process.

Your behaviour may be having a serious effect on your partner's health such as struggling to sleep, experiencing panic attacks, and being physically sick. It can also have an impact on your partner's emotional well-being – they may feel manipulated, intimidated and isolated.

Have you ever…

  • Looked at your partner's phone and controlled their communication with others?
  • Told your partner what to wear or where they can go?
  • Controlled your partner's finances and not give them access to cash or debit cards?
  • Repeatedly put your partner down?

Something that may seem harmless in the moment, can have devastating effects on your partner. It's incredibly important to face up to how your behaviour affects your partner. You may not intend to be hurting them, you might also feel guilty about your actions.

If you feel like you’re losing control of a situation, and you think there’s a chance that your actions might hurt the people closest to you, here are some suggestions that might help you to avoid using certain behaviours:

You have the strength to change!

It can be really hard to accept to yourself that your behaviour is hurting the people closest to you. It takes a lot of courage to make the decision to ask for help. No one can make the changes for you, but there is help available.

The services below can help you take the first steps:

  • Rosalie Ryrie Foundation

A voluntary sector service which works with victims, children and

perpetrators of domestic abuse

Call: 01924 315140 or visit:

  • Respect

Help for men and women who abuse their partners and want to take steps to change their behaviours.

Call: 0808 802 4040 or visit: