16 days of action 2020

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16 days of action against domestic abuse is an international campaign which starts on 25 November (White Ribbon Day) and ends on 10 December (Human Rights Day).

This year, we're going to give you an action each day to help you spot the signs of domestic abuse and to show your support for those who might be experiencing abuse.

Domestic abuse isn't just physical, it can make victims feel controlled, intimidated and isolated from their family, friends and communities.

Each daily action will be posted on our Facebook page @MyWakefield, follow us on there and each day you'll be able to share and comment.

We've also adapted the actions for you here:

Day 1 - White Ribbon Day

People often wear a white ribbon as a sign of them making a promise to never commit, excuse or remain silent about domestic abuse. 

This year has been extremely challenging for many people, especially victims of domestic abuse. Despite the pandemic, there are lots of ways to pledge against domestic abuse. 

Day one action: 

Read about White Ribbon Day here:


Day 2 - Silent Solution

All you have to do is wait for the automated messaged after dialling 999, then press 55.

This will alert your local police that you need help in an unsafe environment.

Day two action: 

Spread the word, or share this on your social media accounts, you could be saving someone's life.

Day 3 - Coercive control

1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men endure domestic abuse in their lifetime. Not all abuse looks the same, so it's extremely important that we're all aware of the signs and where to get help. 

Day three action: 

Follow us on Instagram @MyWakefield and view our story on 27 November.  Let's see if you can spot the signs of coercive control.

Day 4 - Some of the biggest victims of domestic abuse are the smallest. 

Over 800,000 children witness domestic abuse in their homes each year. 

Tragically, witnessing domestic abuse doesn't just temporarily impact a child, it can affect them for their entire life.

Day four action:

Read Zach's story here to find out how domestic abuse can have an effect on children:


Day 5 - Domestic abuse LGBTQ+

We're all human, and we all deserve to live a happy, life free from abuse.

Day five action:

Read Nicola's story about same sex domestic abuse:


Day 6 - West Yorkshire Police online reporting

Whether you're a victim of domestic abuse, or you've witnessed it happening you can now report domestic abuse easily online.

You can access the online form here: www.westyorkshire.police.uk/report-it/report-domestic-abuse

Day 6 action:

Share this on your social media accounts, you could help victims of domestic abuse to finally be free.

Day 7 - Clare's Law

Have there been a few 'red flags'?

You have the right to know AND the right to ask if your partner has a history of abuse and controlling behaviour.

#ClaresLaw aims to protect you or your loved ones from domestic abuse

Day 7 action:

Read more about Clare's Law here:


Day 8 - Financial abuse

Can involve controlling behaviours to reduce a person's independence.

It can include controlling another person's purchases, withholding or stealing money, racking up debt or ruining a person's credit score. It can be a very subtle form of abuse. 

Martin Lewis also known as the money saving expert has written a blog about spotting the signs of financial abuse, and how to get regain control. 

Day eight action:

Read Martin's blog, and if you're worried about anything mentioned here, know that help is available:


Day 9 - Worried about someone you know

Have you noticed a friend hasn't been themselves lately? Have they stopped talking to you or their family? 

It's difficult to know what to do. You may want to help, but be afraid to lose them or feel as though it's not your place to step in get involved. 

Suspecting abuse does not mean that you're nosy, it means you're concerned. 

Day nine action:

By sharing this post on your social media channels, you may encourage a victim of domestic abuse to start a conversation.

Day 10 - Domestic abuse and mental health

Abuse is often a contributing factor in the development of depression, anxiety and other mental health disorders.  

If you have a mental health diagnosis, your partner may have also used this to abuse you even more. 

Day ten action:

Read the Women's Aid handbook on domestic abuse and your mental health:


Day 11 - Honour based abuse

Are you being pressured to get married against your will?

Are you worried you'll bring shame or dishonour on your family if you don't do as you're told?

Karma Nirvana supports victims of honour-based abuse and forced marriage. Culture, religion and tradition are not an excuse; forced marriage is illegal in the UK. 

Day eleven action:

Watch the ITV trailer for Honour – a true story of a women who experienced honour-based abuse from her family:


Day 12 - Male victims

You're probably familiar with some forms of domestic abuse, but there's a more subtle type of abusive behaviour that's harmful.  

Coercive control isn't sweet. It's designed to make a person dependent by isolating them from support, depriving them of independence and regulating their everyday behaviour.

Day twelve action: 

Watch this BBC trailer for 'Abused by my girlfriend' and spot the signs of coercive control:


Day 13 - Emotional abuse

1 in 4 women, and 1 in 6 men endure domestic abuse in their lifetime. Not all abuse looks the same, so it's extremely important that we're all aware of the signs. 

Emotional abuse can be very subtle, it can chip away at a person's self-esteem through name calling, belittling and humiliating them. It can be very intimidating and controlling and can case a person to believe the abuse is their fault. 

Day thirteen action:

Follow us on Instagram @MyWakefield and view our story on 7 December. Let's see if you can spot the signs of emotional abuse.

Day 14 - Are you worried that a friend is experiencing domestic abuse?

Witnessing or suspecting domestic abuse can feel overwhelming. Anyone can be a bystander to abuse, but it is important to intervene in a safe and appropriate way for the victim. 

Day fourteen action:

If you're worried about a loved one, read this guidance from Women's Aid. Your knowledge could help them get free from an abusive situation or even save their life:


Day 15 - Sexual abuse

If you've been pressured or forced into any sexual activity that you didn't want to do, it's a criminal offence – even if you're married or in a relationship with that person. 

West Yorkshire Police have specially trained officers who are dedicated to supporting victims of sexual abuse. It's also important to know that they treat historic incidents as seriously as recent ones. 

If something has happened to you, remember it's not your fault and help is available. 

Day fifteen action:

For more advice about sexual abuse visit:


Day 16 - #HumanRightsDay

Domestic abuse isn't sweet, it's a human right violation.

Sadly, additional restrictions due to the coronavirus pandemic have put more people at risk of new or continued domestic abuse.

Over the #16DaysOfAction, we've given you an action each day to help people spot the signs of abuse and to know what they can do to get help for themselves or others. 

Day sixteen action:

Share your knowledge of domestic abuse with other people, this really could save someone's life.

Also, something is niggling at you, and you think a friend is suffering, try to start a conversation about it. 

It's a very uncertain time for many of us, but particularly for those in lockdown with an abusive partner. This is why domestic abuse remains a priority for us during the Coronavirus outbreak.

If you're in immediate danger call 999, or call 101 if you'd like to make a report. 

For advice, help and support WDDAS are here to help. Please call 0800 915 1561.

Click here for more information about domestic abuse and how you can seek support. 

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